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Was looking at the topics at a forum and the stuffs that youths like to talk about.Then, I chance upon this topic called : "Religion or Love?" ............
Both sensitive and no-answer topic that I found very interesting to see what youths think about it.
Apparently, after reading through it, Im going to give my two cents worth of my own opinion in my blog....
"Religion is SENSITIVE and Love is UNDEFINED ...."
Religion, is what everyone talks about it, avoid it, run away from it, choose it, believe it, live it. BUT, so does love.
Conflict between these two issues has torn countless hearts ,Girlfriends, Boyfriends split up because one chooses religion over love , or love over religion.
Stories like peer pressure from the same religion to split up with a non-believer are common.Religion and love is suppose to be a happy ending for all, but it seems it has created a sad beginning for some.
Really, Nobody has an answer to this issue. Too bad god didn't created Albert Einstein with Love quotations brain cells, * Albert Einstein invented most of the math and physics formulas that you memorised in your brain.* If not, maybe we could work out a formula for it and solve the problems...
but if you ask me, Religion and Love are like 'innocent parties convicted in Human court, guilty of breaking the hearts of mankind with their misinterpretated collaboration"
Which means, religion and love cannot force anybody, it has no power to control any human being.My best explanation is that humans cannot set their thoughts straight and work things out in a 'Diplomatic' manner, meaning finding a solution that is best accepted by both parties.Maybe PAP should give a workshop on this, they are best at DIPLOMATIC matters, just look at what singapore and her singaporeans turns out to be... well.. most of them...
Anyways, there is always a choice. No one is left choice-LESS.In my opinion , you don't have to leave your boy/girl friend cum, husband/wife-to-be if you could just accept each other as who he/she is.
It maybe from diff religion, race, beliefs, but I always believe in fate. When chemistry blossoms, it is a undeniable fact. Whether it carries on or not, is a story both lovebirds must work to seek an answer for. But the answer MUST come from the hearts of both, and not third parties who does not make up your relationship.
I don't mean defiance against family or friends or cell group members,But in relationships, the rationale approach in my opinion is to ask yourself and ask your partner before you ask somebody else.
So far, What I have said may by a bit too literature and unconnecting to you, So I am going to give you a example **EXAMPLE only haR ... if such a situation happens to be, and what I think I will do...:
I am a freethinker-cum-family bonded buddist.Not that I don't believe in God, but I was born in a evironment that has no strictions to religion and as a result, I don't really belong to anywhere except to silently believe there is a power above me. But clueless as to which side I should go because I always think its the same,but he is given diff NAMEs by human beings. I always think that 'GOD is the same, the CULTURE is not' ,which manipulated to be different religion with different godsbut thinking it this way makes it sound like some product that you are selling.
In marketing terms, the need is God. Marketing target audience is human beings.Differentiated marketing strategy is used.The product line strategy is the different races; chinese, malay, indian etc.The product line extention could be Buddist, Taosim, Chirstians,Catholic etc.Then, due to fast rapid acceptance of the market, and to 'differentiate' themselves, They practice customisation to suit the product better for the audience.So, Like Chirstians, there is many different churches, buddist there is many different temples, each with its own unique way of using the product to suit their beliefs.... Some are modern beliefs, some are traditional beliefs, some, a mix of both...
So you see?.. you get the picture..I don't intend to offend any religion here, I respect all religion and all humans have the freedom to choose their belief status, just like I have the freedom of speech, I have to 'speak' up my true thoughts.........Right.. back to the religion love management topic..
So if I am dating somebody,religion really does not come in at this moment, although its worth to keep in some consideration.Because dating is more like, still exploring personality and finding a companion who will create blissful stories for you .. of couse, *intensive physical contact does not contribute to such blissfulness -R(A) rated kind..I have to be crude, but yeah I am the conservative kind ma.. lolx
then, if both are truely in love and marriage is much closer to reality, than religion comes into play.I will consider if he is really the one for me? Is he my husband, the one who will be with me 'til death do us apart' sort of guy?
When deciding which path is better, both should perhaps, just like a business proposal, Ojective: " Find out who's religion should be incorporated into their life."Methodology : "Sincere, true open discussion from both parties using mutual understanding."Research: "Done during the dating period" Results: "show results from the dating period" Discussion: " Should take into consideration who is the better willing party, if both are unwilling, can they accept both beliefs? "Limitations: "Possible breakups, quarrels"Conclusion: "Either religion accepted or not accepted" Future Direction: "Accept, Then marry and live happily ever after, NO accept, then seriously wish each other happily ever after finding their other soul mate"
see? its all about choices and what each other wants.I will want to accept my boyfriend's/husband choice, but provided he accepts mine.Forget about the whole 'if he loves me, he should accept whatever I am...' This is extreme part of acceptance which, I cannot go along with, Its not sacrifice on his.her part, its selfish actsof love on your part. How can you force some one you love, to do something he/she is being forced to do... and not a single day he/she is happy with you?
But i know complications still arises because, LOVE as i mention is undefined. there is no Answer to it. There are people who think too much during the dating period, because they think too fast into marriage. I must admit , I too, may think too much somtimes.But no matter what, I don't rush relationships, its not a RACe race, and I am open to choices, however i am not promiscious, there should be at least a 'Husband factor' in your dating partner ba ...
Right, so my opinion? Religion and love , you must decide youself which means more important and has a stronger faith, there is nothing wrong in choosing either or, but never let third parties decide on your life. They don;t walk into your life, only god can and he created you to follow your heart... but which ever you chose, if you chose religion, then don't close your book on love in future, if you chose love then close your book on religion.Time never stops. Because God never gives up on you no matter what choices you make. Same for Love. Love never gives up on you no matter what beliefs you have.
Let love embrace you and let religion come to you, it will eventually.
Meantime, enjoy time spent with love ones.
you have graduated from 'the religion and love relationship management'
congrats.
you will live happily ever after.
Lightdevil~"Follow your heart. It does not keep you alive for nothing."
*If you find today's post too 'holy' or 'literature' for you, its not...its just my thoughts...which part of you didn't get that?? lolX Kiddin lah..you have yours and I have mine.. i expressed it differently perhaps =] No offence ya'll ... =]
.:AngeL+DeViL blogged on 12:18 PM:.
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